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but stifness will only bring your children to disobey you and or pretend to do what you say then do things behind your back, be your children's best friend.

Regards.

sponta

exactly my point.. thats why i think its very challenging... the problem is i dont know how to handle things like when your son starts drinking alcohol, or your daughter starts dating... how to make them pick the right friends when people's values are changing? i'm not a mother yet nor a wife, but i dont think i can take the next step if im not prepared for whats coming along with it.

parenting is the hardest thing in the world, there is no clear line as to what can be considered old school and new school, every child and every situation require a new method..it is extremely hard, very confusing and brings guilt amoung one all the time :)
excellent post

Being stiff and upright= great parenting.. I mean see modern parenting, there are 7 years old boys gizzzing and 9 year old girls showing their stuff!! I mean are you sure you want that?
Old school is the right way to go..There nothing better!

white wings

"it is extremely hard, very confusing and brings guilt amoung one all the time"

and women still want children, nature beats nurture every time ;-)

phoenix

hmmm are you being sarcastic?!

Do it old school style :P
We grew up just fine on that if you dont,
look at kids nowdays no values whatsoever no pride no nothing...
Sometimes you need to do it old school and still be your children friend just saying sometimes you also need to be the parent as well.
Most of us have gotten the belt treatment and we deserved it yet we turn out fine.
If you like what you see in kids now be the "Modern Parent" just remember you reap what you sow!!!

I know how you feel brave .. I have a 9 month old daughter and the thought of bringing her up freeks the hell out of me... :)

Valentia... I'm not being sarcastic!!

Be ur child's bestfriend but at the same time be strict. Let them know whos boss... In this way, they will respect u.. They will understand someday that what u are doing is for their own good.

I believe that there isnt a book out there that can help or guide us on how to raise kids or do anything in life. First of all, the authors of these types of bookes are usually westurners which mean they come from different backgrounds, religion, traditions, and so on.

My advice, when the time comes worry about it.. u seem like a bright girl and i think u'll do fine. ooo ba3adian la sam7a Allah if ur fears come true (inshallah they wont), but by that time u would be wiser and u'll know what to do.

Live each day by day :)

You don't have to change at all !
من الصعب نقل المبادئ حتى اذا حاولنا ان نتعايش مع هذا الجيل او نتقبل ما يدور فيه لكن اذا كان هذا الموضوع يتعلق بمصلحة ابنائنا وكيفية احترام دينا+عاداتنا وتقاليدنا فالموضوع مختلف اتوقع ان في استطاعتنا ان نربي وننقل هذه الافكار ولكن بالتربه الحديثه غير الي احنا تربينا عليهه لم تكن سلبيه ولكن الوقت اختلف لهذا الجيل اتصور يجب ان نكون اكثر ديمقراطيه +الانصات الجيد+ الرد على اسئلة الطفل باجوبه اكثر صراحه ومباشره + اضهار الاهتمام

and to say to them that we love them !

brava
I tell you darling, we are strange creatures
but to be fare, nothing is more satisfaying than holding a little baby in your arms, especially when it's yours...very warm feeling to say the least, and "yours" does not necessary mean biologically, it could also be socially, as in raising a child and feeling true motherly feelings to ward him/her
aren't women just beautiful with all their contradictions?
:)

allah yaster

شخصيا اعتقد ان التربية تكون تلقائية , يعني يوم بعد يوم تقرر شنو الخطوة التالية

و خنشوف سلموه شلون تطلع, ابوها و امها عكس عكوس

tat

let's start our own community, where our children would be friends, or else my "strictly" raised children wont be able to socialize.



moryarti,

knowing you being the man you are, i don't think you should be worried at all.




phoenix

i'm just impressed to hear that from someone within your age!!... you're bright mashallah.




bella color,

You're absolutely right about the books,i love what you wrote, i just hope it will turn out right... thank you, that was amazing =)



cozy

"اتوقع ان في استطاعتنا ان نربي وننقل هذه الافكار ولكن بالتربه الحديثه غير الي احنا تربينا عليهه "

that's my challenge!!, and it's no question if we're going to love them =)




white wings,

believe me i don't understand women either, that's one of the reasons why i am glad i wasn't born a man!



kila ma6goog

lol,
انا أقترح تكتب يومياتك

Hmmm im getting mixed signals from ya :P when you say "our children" you mean "ours" or my children and yours ?
\(TAT)/

tat

LOL, my children and yours!!!!

Imagine hitting on you that hard?, that would be so desperate and sad ;-p

first of all ... I just noticed the change .. damn papi she didn't tell me .. I've been looking for your blog for a long time .. I thought u quit

I second white wings .. But I admit it I still want more children
I adore babies I wish I could have ten or even more... let white wings tell u ..

LOL i know we will love them for sure but to tell them and to say it evrey time even if they got old ,in our culture "love" is like 3aib and fashla !

Brava: The truth is the truth.. No matter what age utters them.
And Thanks you!!

to be honest from what ive seen its best to stick with the traditional way but with little changes and modifications just to be in line with modernity..... but other than that i still believe in the traditional way in raising a child .... i like the idea 'en kobar weldek 7'awah'.... as KM said its a spontaneous matter unplanned just taking it day by day :)

well it is a tough world..its hard for us as grown people to go with the flow now adays so imagine being responcible for another life...but nevertheless i beleive that anything is possible with good faith and determination and god help us all..

alia,

10!!! mashallah you truly adore children... w i don't blame you for not knowing me, msawyah new look, 7ilo? ;-p




cozy

things have changed, my mom and i used to hug when she comes to pick me from school ;-p




phoenix,
so cute =)



mitfarrigh,

i'm very impressed that actually many of you guys still like the traditional way of rasing children...it's a great relief to know that.




me,

Amen to that sista, welcome to my mountain ;-)